When you go to give your child a hug, they ignore you and turn to go. Why do people act so cold when you know there must be love somewhere?

Having trouble figuring out your child? Feel like they’re playing soccer and you’re still at t-ball? You may actually be speaking two different languages – two different sets of love languages.

According to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are 5 different languages of love. They are:

Words of affirmation

Acts of service

Receiving gifts

Quality time

Physical touch

Hugs and kisses bring immense joy to certain children. Touch appeals to them. Give them lots of hugs, kisses on the cheek, and tender arm squeezes. They’ll experience love.

But some children would rather you say it aloud. Positive comments like “you are such a cool kid” or “your hair looks fantastic” will make their day. They like their love to be audible.

Children may ask for additional evidence of your love. They enjoy it when you undertake impromptu acts of kindness for them. You can prepare their favourite school lunch, assist them with their homework, or take them out on a special date.

For some children, gifts and material evidence of affection also work. Don’t feel pressured to spend a fortune, though. A flower you selected, a rock or seashell that drew your attention, and the statement “I saw this and thought of you” can work just fine. Small but meaningful gifts make them feel closer to you.

Children need your undivided attention, and some of them even need more. To make these youngsters feel loved, put down your phone and give them your whole attention. They want you and your time—quality time. Together, colour, stroll, and converse. Show them how to handle a bike. They treasure every second they spend with you.

The issue arises when your child’s prefered love language is words of affirmation and yours is deeds of service.He just wonders why you can’t just give him a little praise every now and then when you do so much for him in the hopes that he will feel loved and cared for. Although you don’t always express it the same way, you certainly love each other and want to be loved.

In order to address this, you must first determine whether your child’s main love language and yours vary. It just takes about fifteen minutes to complete the free online test. You can then make the appropriate adjustments and discover that things are not as difficult as you had thought!